at dave's memorial service you heard of the christ follower and servant in him. today i want to talk about other parts of dave.
he loved kids! actually i think he just loved people as he never knew a stranger and always believed in the goodness in people. everyone knew how laid back he was and that was reflected in how he supervised the people under him when he was the head building engineer for the school district and how he interacted with fellow staff while he worked in the warehouse. he always said if you direct them kindly they are more apt to complete their work more willingly but if he had to raise his voice it had more impact (people were shocked if he was loud). he was the same when it came to the kids. he never judged them but would lovingly and kindly try to guide them and advise them. (the complete opposite of me, i loved my kids but was a bit louder at it than dave.) and when relationships or adventures they tried didn't work out he never said "i told you so." instead he just accepted it and tried to help them on to the next step.
his kindness and gentleness earned him respect from everyone he met. he was an encourager and would be your cheerleader when you took a step toward your dream or made a change in your life. he had the ability to make you believe in yourself as he cheered you on and even when you failed he was there to pick you up and cheer you on to the next thing. he gave you confidence.
|playing games at matt's|
life wasn't always fun. he would hurt with me when my relationships with my kids or family was rocky. there was a hurt in his heart that he felt would never heal and that was his relationship with his own sons. he loved them dearly and prayed every single day for them and for himself in regards to relationships. for whatever reason he never felt that things were ever right, maybe too much baggage or interference. i don't know but i tried at my end but knew when i pushed too hard because he would grow silent and shed so many tears. i am not sure if people realized how deeply dave felt hurt and pain. he was so good at never revealing his true inner being to others except me. what an honor that was to know how much he loved and trusted me and i was the same with him. the writing of this blog is the closest either one of us has come to revealing who we are to people outside of each other. i know we have exposed a piece of ourselves here and there with certain people but the deep stuff was reserved for each other only.
his love for the kids was multiplied when grandkids came into the picture! there was nothing better for him than to hear "paw paw!". the most boastful he ever was was when he would talk about his grandkids. he would beam when seeley came over and would take his hand and say "mere paw paw"! he loved all the hugs and kisses.
|4th of july in kansas city.|
i love him so much and miss holding hands.